Trying to find the time to fit in blog updates...it's trickier with two!! Duh.
Eli checked out well at the pediatrician, though he is a peanut! 20th percentile for height, 10th for weight and 3rd for head size on the American charts. Em has always held strong at the 60th+ percentiles. No wonder he feels so tiny, he is!
The eye doctor appt. went well too. He definitely has a "lazy eye" or more accurately "exotropic strabismus". His eyes aren't actually that bad, about 20/40, so we are starting with an eye patch to see if we can strengthen his eye muscle. He wears the patch for two hours, first thing in the morning. He has done GREAT with his patch! I thought he'd be ripping that thing off every ten minutes, but he does fine with it.
All in all, things are going well and we are settling in nicely. The hardest part of everything for me has been the fact that for two years we worked hard to be sure that Emily attached well to us and we created routines and rituals for her to feel safe and secure. She hasn't had any attachment issues, but now that we are wanting to foster attachment and bonding with Eli, it's hard to stick to the routines that our sweet girl is used to. She has been amazingly flexible in the whole process, but I'm racked with guilt as I sit rocking Eli and she is laying in bed whimpering, "Mama, rock me."
The current routine goes something like this: We head upstairs and get pj's on, brush teeth, etc. Then we read a book, the three of us if Tom's at school, or Em and Daddy, Eli and Mama if Tom is home. After books I rock Eli and Em reads in bed. Once he's asleep I whisper to her and she comes over to rock a bit more with me and then I sing her a song, tuck her in and rub her back for a minute. Some nights this all goes smoothly. Other nights, not so much. Luckily Eli hasn't had any true sleep issues. Yet.
The thing is, most siblings are added as newborns and all of these routines are established slowly as the baby grows up. I'm guessing it's not as jarring to the older sib. Anyone out there that added a sibling as we did? How did you figure out ways to do things to keep both kids feeling special? Even if you added a newborn, how did you do things for the older sibling?
One of the friends we traveled with wrote in an e-mail, "Oh the guilt of parenting..." and I keep reminding myself that you've got to give and take and nothing will be perfect. She should know, she has five kids!
I do think that overall we are having a very easy time. And when the kids are playing and laughing together we can't get enough. Even better, it's summertime: swimming, ice cream, wagon rides, the park, tricycle rides...